Wednesday, March 28, 2018

Contrition - A Soothing Palliative Agent - Part 1

There is no better relaxation or tension-free in this world than a sound, not snoring!, night's sleep or be with your loved ones or have a hearty meal or deep massage or whatever you deem fit that can complete this list!

But, when an eroding and gnawing sense of restlessness results (Alliteration after (He he he..here too!) a long time!) in a swirling mess of chaotic turbulence in your head, you know that there is something wrong - either someone has wronged you or you have wronged someone or both or simply an unnecessary anxiety and worry.

If it's the last option, then it's time to come back to the reality by grinding the unwanted and unneeded to pulp through right reasoning and knowledge.

However, when the flutter in your bonce is due to any of the other three reasons, you should again grind it to pulp through right reasoning and knowledge.

Sounds repetitive and confusing that it makes your head spin like the rotation of our Earth?

Fret not.

I will simplify it to its simplest level.

You are a genius.

I am not understating or overstating it.

The only reason I want to put in an easy to understand terms is that my vocalization of the articulation of my comprehension is better - significant or slight - I leave it to your genius brains.

Everyone knows that uttering a lie - harmful or non-harmful - is not right. 

But, harmless lies like sweet nothings or no-evil-intentioned insincere flattery are much better than harmful lies as it doesn't hurt or wound anyone.

When you lie through your teeth to your boss or significant other or interview process and get caught in the web of deceit spun by you to the extent that it not only harms the other person but also yourself, then it's an irreversible reaction like the shattering of glass into smithereens.

Unless you have a time machine!

Before doing something - good or bad, if you don't have the courage to let know the other person what you are going to do without any regrettable guilt or fear of shame, then it necessarily means that you have to take a long and hard look into the mirror.

There are those who can be vainglorious or blow their own trumpets on their wrongdoings as well with no sense of guilt as if they have incredibly achieved something in life.

I'm not talking about those unscrupulous and unconscionable characters.

The persons in the topic are those who have a good heart with multiple shades of tenebrousness in them.

And yes.

There is an even more nuanced categorization in this classification as well.

Some could also be arrogant and conceited yet have a heart of gold.

At the end of the day, supposing your well-intended intentions are intended good exclusively for you and not to others but you can't speak it out to the concerned person(s), it's better to stop whatever you want to do as the negative consequences of such actions could be deleterious in the long-run.

Of course, like Draco Malfoy strutting the Hogwarts corridors at the beginning of HP series, you can tell yourself with an air of bravado that you could face any challenges or obstacles that life throws at you.

The real question is...Can You?

Most people either over-estimate or have an exaggerated sense of their self in their minds that they fail to come to grasp in terms of the actual reality about themselves.

Extending it further, there are those who know exactly who they are but still, they have an inflated version - to keep their ego happy or project a coruscating image to manage others' impressions of their yearning happy-ego.

Though both are incorrect, the latter is relatively better as these individuals clearly understand their capacities, limitations and resilience quotient but for want of adulation, they portray a flowery self unlike the former case where the person isn't even aware of an iota of their personality (or have pushed their original nature into the deepest subconscious) but fooling not only another person but also themselves in the process.

It's like when the voters are faced with 2 worst candidates, they choose the one who is best between the worst.

Now, let's throw in another parameter into this equation - An unknown or inexperienced good individual with this 2 candidates. Most often or not, the voters would still elect a known devil than an unknown angel.

Whether it's the former or the latter, you can self-talk with "n" number of justifications for your improper conduct by falsely wanting to think that you have done the right thing when you actually haven't in reality.

All you are doing is that you are deeply and intensely afraid to accept your self as such for the bad things you have committed to the other person by building an artificial fortress of righteousness to cushion yourself from the adverse effects of your unpleasant actions or the unfavorable thinking/perception which people will have upon you for doing such a revolting act in the first place or both.

Too long?

For what?




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